Reluctant to change
“The more things change, the more they remain the same.”
“We keep doing the same thing, all the while expecting different results.”
“There is nothing permanent except change.”
There is nothing people fear more, love more, pursue more, or misunderstand more than change; but as we fight one change thousands more take place both in and around us.
That was made clear to me when I read Rick Zemanek’s article this morning in the Advocate called “Taking aim at gun laws”. As I was reading it, I was thinking about how reluctant we are to change, especially if we cannot see the results. It’s much like a dog who when faced with a wall where he could not see what was on the other side, did not even attempt to jump over that wall, even though his desire to do so was evident.
In that article, it amazed me that people actually would fight against a change that would hopefully reduce the number of senseless killings that take place using military style rifles. Even elected leaders take that stand as if it were the right thing to do as if to say “over my dead body will this change come about.”. What they don’t realise is that it just may happen that way.
We desire change in our lives that will improve it, but are unwilling to do anything to facilitate that change. Nowhere is that more evident that on the street. Tired of drugs, alcohol, sex, or the lifestyle that embraces those addictions, change is desired more than anything else, but like that dog looking at that wall, if they cannot see the benefits of that change, the efforts become weak or nonexistent.
I don’t know who this lady is, but her name is Gail Sheehy and she penned this phrase; “If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.”
Those with addictions go through a cycle that is pure evidence of the reluctance to change. When they get to a certain point, they will go to a detox facility for anywhere up to twenty-eight days with the intent to proceed from there to a rehabilitation centre. That for a lot is the breakdown point, and they do not proceed to rehab; rather they return to the place they came from, and within a short time return to where they were before. They sometimes do this over and over, each time expecting different results. They just do not have the resolve yet to proceed beyond that point.
Martin Luther King, Jr. (a man I do know about) summed it up best this way, “Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.”
In other words, if we want to be free of problems, addictions, persecutions, or even murders, we can only do so by not only accepting, but embracing and pushing for change, even if it hurts or we can’t see the end result. That’s the only way to get the “man” off our backs.
That’s the way I see it anyways