Dad may have chance to catch up with son

My husband and his ex shared custody of their son, Danny, for 11 years.

Dear Annie: My husband and his ex shared custody of their son, Danny, for 11 years.

Two years ago, when his ex and her new husband began experiencing financial problems, she started pressuring Danny to live with her full time. It was no stretch to see that she wanted a big increase in child support.

Danny’s mother manipulated him into believing that living with her would translate into some significant monetary rewards for him.

Danny lied to the family court judge so his mother could claim my husband was an unfit father, and she won full custody and completely destroyed her child’s relationship with his father.

Danny graduates from high school in June, and at that time, child support will stop. I worry that when Danny ceases to be an income-producing asset, his mother will send him to us with his packed bags.

My husband insists he will never allow Danny to live with us, but I know he’s severely depressed over the loss of their relationship and I’d like them to patch things up. How can I help that happen?— California

Dear California: If Danny shows up on your doorstep and Dad throws him out, it will only cause further harm to the relationship, even though it is perfectly justified.

Instead, allow Danny to live with you temporarily while you arrange for him to go to college and live in a dorm, or find a job and an apartment.

Set a realistic deadline for him to move out, and stick to it.

If that plan is not feasible, Dad should take the initiative and arrange to get together with Danny for some regular father-son time — tickets to a ballgame, a fishing trip or something else they both enjoy. They need to find a way to reconnect.

Dear Annie: My whole life I have had jealousy issues. Past boyfriends have had problems with my possessiveness and I am worried that I will lose my current boyfriend because of it. I know that he would never cheat on me. It is just that every time he talks to a girl, I get mad at him.

I try not to, but I feel like every girl he speaks to is prettier than me. How can I stop feeling so inferior and save my relationship? — Nervous Nellie

Dear Nellie: People who are seriously insecure often need professional help to overcome the problem.

You have already taken the first two steps — recognizing you have a problem and wanting to fix it. Now talk to someone. Ask your doctor or clergyperson for a referral.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Pennsylvania Innkeeper” about hotel shampoos. I volunteer at a local food pantry.

When I started, there were only 225 families, and in just one year, it has jumped to nearly 700.

One day, I decided to bring in a few samples of shampoos and conditioners that I had received. I was amazed to see how fast it all went. Sometimes we don’t realize how much little things like those mean to someone who can’t afford them. Would you ask your readers to donate their extra unopened toiletries to their local food pantry?

Someone there will know where to distribute these items.

Thank you and God bless. — Luckier Than Some in Florida

Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611.

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