Ex-wife lying about former husband

Five years ago, my wife had an affair with my best friend, left me and married him.

Dear Annie: Five years ago, my wife had an affair with my best friend, left me and married him.

She now has total custody of our two kids. She lied to the court and to our friends and said I was an abusive husband.

Everyone believed her, and in the small town where we live, it has left me feeling like an outsider.

I can’t stand it here anymore. But if I move somewhere else, I will lose what little contact I have with my children.

I also have a good job, and this would not be a good time to try finding another.

Should I stay and attempt to counter all the lies that have been spread about me?

Or do I move away and start all over again? — Alone in Oregon

Dear Oregon: You are tremendously important to your children, and if you leave, they may consider it abandonment. Decent parents avoid being punitive toward each other in order to make their children’s lives easier.

This doesn’t seem to be the case here, and we worry about what might happen if you moved. Will your ex make it difficult for the children to spend time with you in the summer and over holidays?

Will you continue to make the necessary effort to stay emotionally close or decide it’s too hard and give up? Could you move to a nearby town where your reputation could be rehabilitated while maintaining the same contact with your children?

We understand the urge to get out of Dodge, but please consider your children’s needs before making a decision.

Dear Annie: My wife and I are in our late 80s and need help with those who greet family members with kisses on the mouth.

Our young great-grandchildren and their parents do not realize the risk of passing colds and flu to the elderly this way.

At our age, we do not recover from colds as easily as we did when we were young. We could even die as a result.

When someone tries to kiss me on the mouth, I quickly turn my cheek to them and save my kisses for my wife. With the flu season upon us, maybe this reminder would help convince people of the dangers of this practice. I have checked with our doctors and nurses, and they agree with me.

How do I deal with this without hurting anyone’s feelings? — Turning Cheek in New Hampshire

Dear New Hampshire: These are family members, so be honest with them.

Explain that you love the affection, but you worry about catching something that will put you in the hospital.

Ask your relatives to avoid kissing you on the mouth, and then have them instruct their delightful children to do the same and tell them why.

There is no reason for anyone to be hurt or offended by your very reasonable request.

Just Posted

Red Deer teacher contracts condemning same-sex relationships ‘not acceptable’

Eggen says Red Deer Catholic Schools assured him they no longer have employees sign the form

Second-degree murder trial on hold until January

Jury not back until Jan. 7 for 2015 stabbing death trial while lawyers argue evidence issues

Hospitalizations jump in Red Deer due to opioid poisonings

Small city hospitals impacted more by opioid crisis

Stray dog spotted in one Red Deer neighbourhood, could be missing for 1 year

Red Deerians asked not to feed this german shepard

WATCH: CP Holiday Train rolls into Lacombe

Kelly Prescott performed for hundreds of Central Albertans

Trump comments upend U.S. approach to Huawei, trade talks

WASHINGTON — The United States and China have taken pains this week… Continue reading

WATCH: CP Holiday Train rolls into Lacombe

Kelly Prescott performed for hundreds of Central Albertans

Dumba scores twice, Wild rout Canadiens 7-1

ST. PAUL, Minn. — Reeling and banged up, the Minnesota Wild were… Continue reading

Coach Hunter wants up-tempo Team Canada as world junior squad hits ice

COLWOOD, B.C. — Team Canada coach Tim Hunter says the team that… Continue reading

Study finds female-led films outperform male ones

NEW YORK — A study organized by Time’s Up, the organization formed… Continue reading

Price Is Right contestant wins winter trip to Winnipeg, Churchill

WINNIPEG — Who wants to visit Winnipeg in the dead of winter?… Continue reading

CBC Gem streaming service to launch exclusive content, partners with Wattpad

TORONTO — The CBC has launched a new streaming service featuring live… Continue reading

‘Part of the solution:’ Alberta seeks proposals to build new refinery

EDMONTON — Alberta is looking for someone to build a new oil… Continue reading

Most Read