Dear Annie: My son’s friend “Josh” confided to their group that he is gay.
Josh’s parents are pretty strict and often comment that they have to keep an eye on him because he is a teenager and “interested in girls.”
Since Josh came out to his friends, he doesn’t socialize with them as much and spends a lot of time on his computer.
I am concerned that he is meeting the wrong kinds of people through the Internet. It doesn’t matter to me whether he is gay or not.
If he is socializing over the computer, it could be dangerous.
Do I have an obligation to say anything to his parents about his sexual orientation? I know he will eventually tell them when he is ready, but I am worried about what he is going through now. — A Concerned Mom
Dear Concerned: Please don’t tell Josh’s parents that he is gay. That is up to him.
You can, however, talk to his parents about the risks of meeting people over the Internet, which are the same for every child.
We’re sure you can find a way to bring up your concerns without betraying any confidences.
You also can discuss this directly with Josh if you have the opportunity. And while you’re at it, it wouldn’t hurt to have this conversation with your own son, as well.
Dear Annie: I have been engaged for almost two years.
The wedding will happen when my fiance and I both have full-time employment.
The problem is my future mother-in-law. I can’t stand her.
She talks about me behind my back and is critical of things she knows nothing about. I don’t want this woman at my wedding. I want to enjoy myself and not have her ruin the day.
However, my fiance says his mother needs to be there. I think she will make the day miserable by drawing attention to herself and causing trouble. Any suggestions? — Aggravated in the USA
Dear Aggravated: Welcome to the world of marriage. This is your husband’s mother. She’s a pain in the behind, but he wants her at the wedding. So put on your best happy face and treat her as part of your family, because that’s what she is going to be.
If you shut her out, she will never forgive you, and neither will your groom.
Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611.