Soldiers at increased risk of suicide

The Army’s recent report of an increase in the suicide rate among soldiers sheds light on an important public health issue.

Dear Annie: The Army’s recent report of an increase in the suicide rate among soldiers sheds light on an important public health issue.

It also highlights the need to create greater awareness around the challenges affecting the men and women serving in our armed forces, as well as the many services available to them through the Department of Defense and other organizations.

After 29 years of military service, I recently retired and began a new chapter of service to my country and comrades.

In dealing with my own struggle with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), I have been sharing my personal experience with veterans and active duty members, and encouraging them to acknowledge and seek help for emotional health issues. In my efforts, I hope to not only help prevent the tragedy of suicide, but also to help our brave warriors overcome the too common lack of understanding about mental health issues.

Please join me in spreading the word about the importance of seeking help.

It is important for service members to know that PTSD and depression are not character flaws or personal weaknesses. They are illnesses that are common and treatable. It takes courage to ask for help. Thank you for letting me share my story. – Command Sgt. Maj. Samuel Marvin Rhodes Sr. (Ret)

Dear Command Sgt. Maj. Rhodes: We have mentioned this website in our column before and are happy to do so again. We hope active military members, as well as veterans and their families, will look into this website and take the screening. It is completely confidential and can be enormously helpful.

Dear Annie: Could you please settle a dispute between my daughter and me? When there is a child’s birthday party and it’s at a place like Chuck E. Cheese’s, what is the proper etiquette on opening the gifts?

Should they be opened at the restaurant, or do the parents take them home and open them later when the guests will not be present? I say it is proper to open them at the party. What do you say? – Grandma

Dear Grandma: Many parents of very young children choose not to open gifts during the party because things can get out of hand, the kids become overexcited, the birthday child has a meltdown and Mom loses track of who gave what.

Under those circumstances, it makes sense to open gifts later. The only caveat is that each guest must receive a personal thank you note.

Dear Annie: I am writing about the advice you gave “Goldilocks,” whose friend and hairdresser, “Cora,” was not doing a good job.

You said to tell her more forcefully how she wants her hair done. I would have answered differently.

I would tell Cora that she is not listening to her customers, which will hurt her business. She could start by saying, “Cora, we have had a long and wonderful relationship. I care about you and your well-being. I am taking a risk by telling you the truth because I value you and don’t want to stand by and let you hurt yourself.” Then tell her kindly what the problem is.

This woman is probably reacting to other customers the same way. She needs help. If she doesn’t listen and self-destructs, at least you will know you did everything you could. – Cheshire, Conn.

Dear Cheshire: Thanks for the sympathetic suggestion. We hope it works.

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to

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