In our belief, having a baby should be a good, happy time in a couple’s life. The doctor visits were great, both of us were involved. We were included during everything. I was there to hold my wife’s hand through everything and comfort her, even the pap smear. As far as I could remember, if a person is calm and relaxed, a person is happy and things go much easier!
When my sister had her twins and went for her ultrasounds she was happy, comfortable and relaxed. She had her husband beside her the whole time just to hold her hand and talk to her.
Our recent experience was very uncomfortable! Not at all what we expected!
When we went for our first ultrasound at the Central Alberta Imaging Centre it was a very unexpected experience. My wife was told that she had to go into the exam room alone, I had to stay in the waiting room. From that point on she was tense and uncomfortable. No matter how she felt, she was not allowed to have anyone hold her hand and comfort her.
She was put into a dark cold room. At times she wanted to cry. She told me that if she could she would have walked out but she knew that the test was required.
I don’t care about being able to see the image on the screen all I want to do is be able to comfort my wife.
Why is it required to put a person through this much stress?
We did not get good news but that is beside the point.
Why was this made into such a cold and impersonal procedure?
Why can’t we be together so she can hold my hand and help her be calm and relaxed?
Les Berry
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Blackfalds