Dear Annie: Please help me.

Dear Annie: Please help me.

Dear Annie: Please help me.

My husband, whom I love very much, is addicted to pain pills. It’s been more than a year. He says he takes them to maintain his energy levels for his long 12-hour days, but, Annie, he still takes the pills on his days off. When he tries to stop, he goes through withdrawal symptoms.

Not only am I concerned for his health, but it’s putting stress on our budget. He spends at least $100 a week on these pills. I’ve tried everything I can think of to get him to stop, but nothing works. Rehab is not an option because we don’t have the money and insurance won’t cover it.

I love my husband very much, but this is affecting our marriage, and he’s ignoring it. — Distraught Wife

Dear Distraught: Your husband isn’t trying to wreck his marriage.

He is an addict, and addicts do whatever is necessary to support their habit. He will need to gradually taper off the medication until he no longer suffers withdrawal symptoms.

We assume your husband has some kind of prescription for these pills that needs to be refilled regularly.

Call and alert your husband’s doctor (and possibly local pharmacies) that he is abusing the pills. And please contact Families Anonymous ( at 1-800-736-9805 and Nar-Anon ( at 1-800-477-6291 for assistance and support.

Dear Annie: I have two questions concerning proper etiquette.

When wedding invitations are sent out, isn’t it proper for there to be postage affixed to the reply envelope?

Also, I attended a wedding reception in December and didn’t receive a thank-you note until June. What is the proper timeframe for sending thank-you notes out after a wedding? — Curious in Florida

Dear Curious: Thank-you notes should be written as soon as possible, and preferably within three months.

However, many readers would be grateful to receive one altogether, no matter how late.

As for stamps, please understand that back in the Stone Age, invitations were hand-delivered without response cards of any kind.

Guests were expected to supply their own stationery for replies.

However, since few people have personal stationery these days and invitations are rarely hand-delivered, hosts have included response cards, usually stamped, in order to facilitate a timely RSVP from guests who otherwise aren’t always courteous enough to reply. Do they have to?

No. But it certainly makes it more likely that they will get a response.

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.